There's nothing in particular that makes today different, but for some reason, you know you got it goin' on. You feel awesome, really self-confident. And then you get to work, school, or wherever it is that you are headed to, and the feeling flattens as unwittingly, you start comparing yourself to someone who seems better than you…again…
Maybe today it was your coworker who delivered a smashing presentation, the guy on the subway with the awesomest tattoos, or the bank teller who is three decades older than you but is rocking her sexy stilettos – and you thought your sneakers were stylish! You just don’t feel that confident anymore and it stings.
As you watch your self-esteem sail away into the deep, blue yonder, you wonder if it will ever come back. You tell yourself you're not totally misled about who you are, and you don’t have to be stellar or outstanding to feel awesome.
But even as you’re speaking the words, you don’t really buy into them.
Take heart, friends! This course will give you tools to like yourself as you are, for what makes you you. It will help you build a solid, unshakable sense of self-esteem, starting with the awareness that part of the human experience is, well… being human!
Building self-esteem – or claiming it, which implies it’s already in there somewhere – requires awareness and repetition. Just like kids don't learn manners overnight, we also need to practice reminding ourselves of our self-worth until we gradually come to believe in it on a gut level.
Because telling yourself at you are worthy is just step one. But in order to successfully re-wire the neural pathways in your brain, you need to repeat step one over and over again until healthy self-esteem becomes your automatic default setting.
We also need to arm ourselves for setbacks by identifying our self-esteem busters and counteracting them.
Not surprisingly, research in psychology shows that high self-esteem is correlated with happiness and wellbeing – so say social psychologists Roy Baumeister, Kathleen Vohs, and their colleagues. That makes sense, doesn’t it? How you see yourself affects so many aspects of your life – including your mood, productivity and relationships – all of which can improve when you build your self-esteem.
Building a strong and stable sense of self-worth takes awareness and practice. Together, we’ll recognize our strengths and good qualities. We’ll learn how to find approval within ourselves. We’ll come to feel good about ourselves, no matter whom we’re sitting next to.
You’re a brave guy. And a lucky one too. How do we know that? Because you survived your heart attack. And now, you’re ready to move on. Maybe you think the best way to do it is to forget it ever happened. But how far will that get you? Chances are, not very. To really move on you need to first deal with what you’ve gone through and then start re-structuring the pieces of your life. That’s a tall order even for the bravest and luckiest among us. You need – and deserve –the best tools to help get you there. We have gathered these tools for you right here, in the ‘Recovering from heart attack’ community. This is the no-nonsense place where men like you come to learn how to process what they’ve gone through and move on. It’s where they share their experiences with one another and practice the steps that support and sustain their recovery. In fact, it’s the only place where you can access all these tools within the framework of our uniquely effective approach to recovery. Just for brave, lucky guys like.
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